I picked her up roughly and carried her into the bathroom. “You know how to pee-pee like a big girl.”  I said.  “You know this. You need to stop pee-peeing on yourself because this is just not working anymore.” My angry lecture went on throughout the process of stripping, setting on the […]

Do you love your children enough to die for them?


I was rolling around with Baby Agnes this afternoon during Norah’s nap. My laptop was open nearby and the old Woody Allen movie, Manhattan, was playing. Its’ supposed to be a classic. I’ve been bringing this movie back up at naptimes trying to finish it every few days for the […]

Is this what my parents felt like?



I am sitting in a dark room on one end of my house, just off the kitchen. Carpet under my bare feet, a box fan going in the room for noise. My chubby six-month-old is laying in my arms wearing grey jammies with little black stars on them. Agnes can’t […]

More things I’d like to remember in ten years


Then the kingdom of  heaven Eclipse 2017 will be like a foolish virgin married lady with two conventionally-conceived children. For when the foolish lady made plans to view the 2017 American Eclipse, she didn’t buy eclipse glasses on Amazon back in July like a reasonable person who knows she has no […]

The foolish virgin and the eclipse glasses



I wanted to revisit the food issue this week, because it’s important to me to get something like this right. Last week I wrote about one rule that stops me from overeating, and I stand by my rule as a helpful practical aid in the everyday struggle against gluttony. But […]

Christ and the cracker


I know it—I’ve been terribly practical the last few weeks. Not much dwelling on gospel truths here, but I promise you I don’t plan to camp here forever. Also, today’s topic has to do with an everyday living kind of thing that does (I wish it didn’t) carry over into […]

The one rule that keeps me from overeating



I’m fascinated by the power of a good question. This fascination probably dates back to when I was a preteen. My dad put a book into my hand that year: How to Win Friends and Influence People, the Dale Carnegie bestseller, the self-help book from before self-help books existed. For […]

Five questions to help you get closer to other women


The following book review recently appeared on The Gospel Coalition here.     Raise your hands, women, if these questions feel familiar: Who are my friends? What purpose do I serve in their lives? How can I get closer to them? How do I handle conflict with my friends? Why […]

A Field Guide for Making Friends



They warned me about a lot of things to expect in motherhood. Swollen ankles, for instance. Sleepless nights. Inexplicable fears, bodily fluids on furniture. I just don’t remember anybody mentioning the boredom. We young mothers at home are always doing something—wiping, reasoning, feeding, nursing, walking, watching, buckling, driving, shopping, disciplining, […]

It’s okay to be bored, mama


The people who design grocery stores know what they’re doing. Every time you go to check out, you find racks of very specific kinds of things lined up near the registers. Candy. Magazines. Big bins of $5 movies that you haven’t thought about in fifteen years. Those who design the […]

3 reasons we aren’t God’s ‘impulse buy’